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My Alphabet Toddler Coloring Book with The Learning Bugs: Fun Coloring Books for Toddlers & Kids Ages 2, 3, 4 & 5 - Activity Book Teaches ABC, Letters & Words for Kindergarten & Preschool Prep Success
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How to Talk so Little Kids Will Listen: A Survival Guide to Life with Children Ages 2-7
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My Numbers, Colors and Shapes Toddler Coloring Book with The Learning Bugs: Fun Children's Activity Coloring Books for Toddlers and Kids Ages 2, 3, 4 & 5 for Kindergarten & Preschool Prep Success
No-Drama Discipline: The Whole-Brain Way to Calm the Chaos and Nurture Your Child's Developing Mind
Parent-Child Relationships Today
A discussion of the different parenting styles today and the affects of those styles on children.
In this day and age of high numbers of single parents, high divorce rates and growing patriotism that stresses the individual's role of uniqueness and greater promotes individuality, we are seeing our society progressively move away from conservatism and even boundaries. Our children are being taught about sex younger and having sex younger. Drug use, which used to be primarily a college thing, is now being highly apparent in studies done in middle school students. Gang rates have risen and more and more children and adolescents are being seen in criminal court cases ranging from drugs and stealing to premeditated murder. Binge drinking rates are prominent now in universities as well as high schools and weekly polling studies from universities have shown that dating is almost a thing of the past with most students preferring the 'hook up' (casual sexual encounters, usually while under a substance influence).
So what in my opinion is the cause of this? Well in the cases where I've seen children using drugs, having casual sex, committing crimes, suffering in school, going to excess , etc. - I've usually also found two types of parent-child relationships. The first is the authoritarian type parent who feels the need to push their child as hard as possible and needs control over every aspect of their lives. When a child expresses the need for independence, as is a natural stage of growth for children and adolescents as they strive to know themselves and their limits, the child is often punished. This punishment will either cause the child to shy away from self-development in which case they will spend most of their lives struggling over who they are or what they want and this will in turn cause hardships for them in decision making and relationships or they will lash out in defiance and go to extremes usually being promiscuous, forming substance addictions, chronic lying, etc. The second type of parent is the one that wants to be friends with their child.
They set very few, if any, limitations for their children and trust their child to be able to make adult -like decisions with out imparting any adult like wisdom to their children. If efforts to be friends with their children, usually to compensate for what they feel is a limitation like a one parent or broken home, they allow these children to do drugs or be promiscuous and justify it with phrases like 'well if they are going to do it, I'd rather them do it here.' Aside from the obvious ways these children are in danger, they also face other dangers such as low self-esteem from not having to push themselves, high depression levels from not having to obtain or reach goals which causes them to feel like they have no control over their lives since they seldom have had to work for it , higher anxiety levels from not feeling safe and increased amounts of stress usually from not preparing or getting information that parents are supposed to important on their children such as education plans, deadlines, behavior modeling.
Children that I have seen do well in their lives, with themselves and in interpersonal relationships usually have a certain type of parenting relationship as well. Their parents are those that set limitations to ensure the safety of their child but let them know why those limitations are there so that the child does not feel dominated. They also however allow the child some independence so that the child can grow and figure out what their limitations are while remaining relatively safe and a feeling of security. In this parenting style a parent may let their child go to a party to feel it out for themselves and to gather some identity in their social roles but they will set limitations such as calling to check in, not being out past a certain hour, needing good grades , needing the parents to be home and/or meeting them, etc. These children often grow up well assured because they have been able to test life's waters but have also known that they have support should they need it. They often grow up independent, goal oriented, assertive and suffer the least from depression, anxiety or other psychological disorders. They thrive better in their relationship and their careers and have longer life expectancies. They are also the children that grow up to adopt similar parenting styles for their own children.