10 Best Man Speech Toast Parents

Best Man Speech Toast Parents in 2023

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Great Advice for Newlyweds

Are you a newlywed yourself? A best man or maid of honor making a toast? Perhaps you're just need some ideas for "advice for the new couple." This is for you: ure tips to help a marriage endure past the honeymoon.

Birth Control
Any parent can tell you that kids will rock your world. They change your perspective on so many things, in a grand and mighty way. And let me just add that two kids is a whole different ballgame than one. I think most couples think of having a child (singular) at some point. But my husband and I had twins 9 months after our honeymoon. WHOA. In so many ways, we rushed through a lot before adjusting and settling into our routine - which was a harder start than it had to be.

If you are getting married, discuss the direction and timing of the growth of your family and be very clear - taking steps to implement what you agree on. It can and will change your life...and give you a good start to knowing one another before you (and your offspring) are all growing up together!

Trust
Trust is earned and takes time. When you have blows to trust, it can be so much harder than you think it is going to be to anti-up again. Even when trying very hard, there is that little voice of doubt. Though we ought not ignore that voice, it does no good at all to lament over little things and stew before we know the facts. Many days can be ruined in suspicion. But we need to have faith that "sins will always find you out."

In the meantime, give your emotions a rest a offer the trust until proven otherwise. If you suspect someone is lying or cheating or breaking trust in small things, it will destroy more days than it has to, waiting for the sin to surface. No one wants to play the fool, but it can be infinitely more foolish to judge or waste your days in worry, before the facts are in.

Dishes
Eleanor Roosevelt once said, "The kind of man who thinks helping with the dishes is beneath him, will also think helping with the baby is beneath him and then he certainly is not going to be a very good father." Or a funnier version by an unknown author, "No man ever shot his wife while doing the dishes." The point is not the dishes. The point is the willingness to help with any task to better the home jointly or relieve the burden of mundane chores off the other.

Your Mom
Whether you are a man or a woman, guard the negative information about your spouse that you share with your mother. My sister once told me, "You can forgive your spouse a lot faster than Mom can." It was great advice because as much as mothers can be the best sounding board when you are trapped in a frustrating situation, it is wise to sort through some woes in private or with a friend. Mothers have a way of wanting to remind you of the past, so as not to repeat mistakes. Their intentions are good, but rest assured, as things build over the years, they will carry it and you will likely let it go - because you chose your spouse and you love them...your mother didn't.

Forgive
Carrying a grudge is perhaps one of the hardest things on a marriage for the spouse and the grudge holder. In a study covered in Malcolm Gladwells book, Blink (Little, Brown and Company, 2005) a facial analysis expert determined that the number one emotion present in all couple destined for divorce is contempt. Contempt means, the feeling with which a person regards anything mean, vile, worthless. If you have contempt for your spouse, it may be a series of things unforgiving. (It also may be that they truly are mean, vile and worthless...in which case, seek counseling.) To truly forgive is an art that will endure years. If you struggle with forgiveness, there are so many good books such as....the Bible.

May I Take Your Order
I once heard of a technique used in marital counseling from a friend called "The McDonalds." Basically, the concept was that if you are in a stalemate with your spouse you should start a conversation saying to your spouse, "Welcome to McDonalds, May I take your order?" As a reply, the spouse states clearly what they want from you. For example, "I would like you to help me with the laundry." or "I would like dinner at 6:00 more consistently." The idea is to keep is very tactical. The order-taker should then say, "Will there be anything else?" Now, in this conversation, no where does the order-taker argue or say anything besides, "Anything else," Then, switch roles . The goal is to clearly define what you need for one another.

So often if marriage, we take things so personally. Our emotions run wild and we get away from saying what we need and venture into psychoanalysis - and how we feel. Often, it comes back to basics and just being very clear about what we need, today.

Your Bedroom
The bedroom of the couple should be reserved for two things: rest and sex. If anything else is going on in the bedroom, it is likely a distraction from the haven it should be. Over the years, a bedroom can become a huge dumping ground of clothes (an enormous closet), an office, a laundry room, the babies "room." This is detrimental to a marriage. A good marriage will thrive if you get good rest and connect in love consistently. This can be so hard when your desk is in the bedroom, reminding you of work, Or when you fall asleep staring at the laundry thinking you are the only one who does anything. Or, when your attention is focused on the two year old between you, instead of each other. Keep your bedroom a sanctuary and champion the rejuvenation to the spirit that takes place within your walls.

A good marriage is dependent on so many things. Like child rearing, there is no secret formula. But there are a few tried things that will help. As you actively work on these few together, you may find that the breath your marriage needs to survive is easier to draw in.

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