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On Suicide, Grief, Knowing What to Say, and Controlling Teen' Internet Use

This parenting advice column tells a woman that she need not be an expert in grief counseling to help bring comfort to the mother of a child who committed suicide. Accept the invitation to visit. We also address the issue of parental controls for teens.

Stop here every day for a new question and answer, practical help for busy parents.

Question

My father's girlfriend lost her daughter to suicide last weekend. He called today to ask me to come over this evening to visit, and to bring my daughter. He says that the grieving mother will be happy to see the girl, who is almost 21 months old. Should I go? And if I go, should I take the girl? It's not the woman who invited us, but my father. He says that people have been in and out every day since the suicide happened. I have no idea what to say. I've never done this before.

Answer

Would that all of us could plead a lack of experience in dealing with the suicide of someone we know. In that matter, you have been blessed up until now. Even those who have had brushes with suicide don't necessarily know what to say. I have trouble coming up with the right words at the funeral of older people who were well-prepared to depart from the world, let alone something to comfort a woman grieving over the sudden death of a daughter. In this situation, you are probably as ready as anyone else.

As for the visit, don't assume that the woman will get upset at the sight of a child. At such traumatic times, people react in different ways. You presumably know your dad's girlfriend pretty well, and she gets along with you and your daughter. If I'm correct in my assumptions, your choice is clear. Accept your father's invitation. Presumably, he can gauge her current mental state better than anyone else.

Visit them as you might do on a happier occasion. Tell the woman you are sorry for her loss - always a safe comment at such times - and offer help if needed. After that, let the other woman set the tone. If she seems uncomfortable in your daughter's presence, bow out early. If she wants to interact with the girl, let her. You have come to help comfort this woman. Let her direct the course of the visit.

You may not know what to say, but if you pay attention to the words, expressions, and actions of the grieving woman, you'll probably know what to do without outside assistance.

Question

Do teenagers need parental controls on their computers? I am talking about 13- to 17-year-olds. Above 17 they are actually adults, according to the PEGI rating system.

Answer

I, for one, am thankful that Pan European Game Information is here to tell me when my offspring become adults.

That will save me a lot of effort. All this time I've been paying attention to how my sons act and speak, gauging their level of responsibility based on their attention to chores and other duties, and assessing their maturity based on such abstract metrics as honesty and courtesy.

And to think that I've been relying on my own observations and my children's actual conduct to determine how much freedom I give them.

I'm often reluctant to answer questions written by children, but this one needed some attention. Because the need for parental controls on a computer has absolutely nothing to do with a child's age and everything to do with his level of maturity.

In college, I met legal adults I wouldn't trust to put ketchup on my burger, while in high school I met kids reliable and trustworthy enough to earn management positions supervising workers twice their age. Most parents know their children well enough to determine where they fall on that spectrum.

A 13-year-old who uses the computer responsibly for homework and benign research projects, who doesn't abuse the privilege, may require few controls. A 17-year-old who sits up all night playing games or downloading porn or loading up the hard drive with virus-laden files probably shouldn't have access to the computer at all.

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